The five-minute warning wasn’t enough for my daughter.
Mommy, please tell me when it is fifteen minutes before it’s time to leave. So I have time to finish my game.
The truth is, sometimes I forget to give a warning at all and we just have to go when we have to go! Warning or no warning. But my daughter had a point that reminded me how often we take for granted or even assume we have a right to be warned. Oh the rights we possess! Or not. Well, not really. We don’t have many rights in life and “the fifteen minute warning” isn’t one of them.
We have the right to love and friendship, (with who is another discussion,) but not much else. Yet even without the right, many of us have the privilege of “the fifteen minute warning.” And time tics away and what have we done with it?
At work we are told about working better as a team member.
At home we are asked to stop yelling when we are upset.
We are warned. Time passes. Pride keeps us from being friendly to ourselves often enough. Friendly would be to forget about how we are right and hear the warning. Being right is over-rated. Friendly is the crisis. Friendly is to go toward the wanting.
If we can’t do this even though we know we hear, maybe we don’t have what it takes? That’s a turn in the warning to get an opinion of “why” from a medical professional and then to respond to the recommendations. “The fifteen minute warning” is designed to improve our experience and readiness. If we can’t, than shift gears into finding out why.
Questions: What warnings have you heard that improved your experience and readiness? Please tell us your story
Self-Care Tip: Deliberately use warnings as the privilege that they are, rather than entitlement, to be friendlier to yourself.