Noticing the Signs – Friendship Status

We people who are friendly to ourselves act when we notice that cruelty starts to creep up. Our response usually involves a combination of simple remedies – clean air, beans and greens, sleep hygiene, exercise, water, and when indicated, medical treatment compliance.  These are remedies but they are also a process.  The remedies are the construct of our way of life.  We get out of the mind-set of being “good” or “bad.”

Question:  However, how do we notice that we are not being nice to ourselves?  Please speak out.

7 thoughts on “Noticing the Signs – Friendship Status

  1. Where I’m so exhausted that I find it hard to concentrate. When tears come too quickly. When nerves are shot. When sleep won’t come. When I forget to remember ME.

  2. Before my husband passed away in Aug.2011 sleep came easily, now I need medication to help me fall asleep. I’m still lost without him.
    Blessings ~ Maxi

  3. Getting beyond good or bad – by being good it becomes natural without conscious effort – evidence the process works but remember process does not have an ending.

    On Mon, Jan 21, 2013 at 11:53 PM, A Friend to Yourself wrote:

    > ** > Sana Johnson-Quijada MD posted: ” We people who are friendly to > ourselves act when we notice that cruelty starts to creep up. Our response > usually involves a combination of simple remedies – clean air, beans and > greens, sleep hygiene, exercise, water, and when indicated, medical > treatme”

  4. When sleep doesn’t happen, for various reasons, I just ignore the issue and figure when I get tired enough I will sleep. This doesn’t work, and it’s usually the beginning of an eventual “crash and burn.” I feel defective and weak and a failure when I start feeling down. I’ve been dealing with depression for several years. I know the self-talk, been to countless hours of therapy, and learned CBT skills to the extent that I could probably teach a course. I hate the fact that I need meds to maintain a healthy emotional balance. When it takes almost all of the energy and strength within me to get from my room to the bathroom, and I barely have the strength to hold my arm up to brush my teeth, I beat myself up for being lazy. When I’m in the middle of a sentence and can’t think of a word, or I suddenly lose my train of thought and can’t retrieve it, I tell myself that I’m dumb. I forget that I have some chronic illnesses, and that I recently had a serious neurological issue, which all contribute to my fatigue, depression, and cognitive deficits. I don’t feel sick so I don’t relate what I’m experiencing to the fact that it may be a biological process causing my difficulties. I’ve recently been forced to come face-to-face with my own mortality and the fact that I’m not invincible, as I’ve always believed :) I abhor the thought! I’m trying to accept this but I’m not completely buying into it yet. I guess I have a few more “learning experiences” before it all sinks in.

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