Self-Care Tip #145 – Think about what you’re wanting and waiting for, and then think about what you have. Be a friend to yourself.
Today my husband told me that it is the season of Epiphany – the climax to our waiting and wanting (or Advent) is celebrating when we find out that God became a human.
I like epiphany’s. Who doesn’t? At dinner we talked it over with the kids. We asked them questions like, “What do you remember from last year that you’re glad about?” ”Did you learn anything that you want to remember in this new year?” My three-year-old was glad our house isn’t destroyed yet by the rain. (Yes. It is raining again. Blah. The basement should be filled in with dirt!)
Then, my epiphany came. Self-care includes being grateful for what and whom we already have in our lives. Ta-da! May not seem like much but it hit me strong and soulful. I have names, including yours on my list.
Self-care for me today was stopping on the bits of life I already have, the people I already know, the gratefuls I don’t habitually spend enough spirit on (generally all of them.) I get poetic and lumpy thinking about it. My epiphanies feel like soppy insides, doe-y eyes, choking up over the smell of my husband’s neck, the mysteries of time and such. Epiphanies generally don’t come without a waiting and a wanting. It can all be deliberate, which is good news too, because those of us who don’t do that unconsciously have a chance.
As said by Fred Clark, Author of blog “Slacktivist,”
Epiphanies don’t seem like the sort of thing one can schedule ahead of time and plan for.
It isn’t as romantic as I hear it was for Edison, but we can plan. Waiting, wanting, and the ah-ha’s can be deliberate and are part of self-care.
Question: In this season, what are your epiphanies?
- Lament, Celebrate, Negotiate to Take Care of Yourself (friendtoyourself.com)
- Epiphany: One of us (slacktivist.typepad.com)