Self-Care Tip #199 – Bring together what you are naturally inclined to do with what you spend your energies on.
When we do what we like to do, what is congruent with our hard-wiring, what is naturally inspiring, fatigue becomes part of our pleasure in my life. Cliché,
Enjoy the burn,
…is common for a reason. There are times when pain, fatigue, difficulty and hard-surfaced days are bits of what make life journey one of richness, rather than diminished. I was reminded by Jaclyn Rae’s Blog-post today, that when we can say,
I’ve learned that I’m tired but still want to do what I do,
…we are paddling the same river our life is floating down. When we by mental illness, misfortune, choice or neglect, don’t – we are more observant of our lives rather than participants to them. We find being present in the process difficult. It’s not something everyone can do in all aspects.
However, we don’t have to be defined by those particulars, choosing instead to do the hard work of processing our choices, our energy and where it comes from, our emotions and see how they weave into our constitution. Then, some time when breathing hard, limping and spent, we will remember this and reconnect the experience with the choice and the emotion a little quicker. We will less often separate from the water our life is traveling. Not become observers but participate more often, more actively, more tangibly with that kernel in us that stays, our essence. (See blog post, My Essence.)
In the marvelous work, “His Dark Materials” trilogy, Philip Pullman describes us as split persons, a body and a spirit (“demon”) that might be parted by neglect, carelessness, abuse, or other disasters. But when it is separated, the body suffers and is disconnected from it’s life purpose, what brings pleasure and presence in the world around. (See blog post, Soul and Body.)
There are medical illnesses that do this, as mentioned above, and in those cases, perhaps all to do is get medical care, heal, treat and get on with life. Other times, it might be that we forgot ourselves in the midst of caring for children, a demanding job, an opinion that victim-hood defines our life possibilities or what not. We have options.
As Jjen reminded us some days ago,
The bad doesn’t disappear but it is not a qualifier for the rest of life’s potential.
Questions: How have you reconnected to your life journey? Your essence? What is constant about you in your changing self? Please tell me your story.