Pastor Venden on suffering
Hello Friends, This is an audio recording of my pastor of seven years. He is gone now and I miss him. Tonight, please enjoy one of his sermons and let me know what you think. youtube.com/watch All my best to you.
Hello Friends, This is an audio recording of my pastor of seven years. He is gone now and I miss him. Tonight, please enjoy one of his sermons and let me know what you think. youtube.com/watch All my best to you.
“I stop fighting my inner demons. We’re on the same side now. T-shirt” ― Darynda Jones, Second Grave on the Left Monday came. I was not ready to tackle the day. I lay in bed a few minutes longer while I started to dread and plan for the day’s appointments, calculating drive times, meals, and accommodate […]
Remember there are no dividers between God and mental health. Some patients think they have to chose; either get to go to a psychiatrist or to a pastor. Reminds me of the “seers”, like the Witch of Endor. Go to her to ask for help and you lose God’s presence in your life. When Saul […]
Blood soaked and layered with fallen governments, the Acropolis remains, a witness and teacher to a summer fling. A tour of the Acropolis and its new museum taught much. #1 – Never go on such travel without a tour guide. She made all the difference. Without her, I might have lasted for an hour, or an […]
I’m in San Bernardino today, working in a small community clinic. I am in the company of four licensed and practicing physicians who are donating their time. I am blessed. One physician I’m working with tells me he has taken care of himself in his medical practice, “basically by not being a hypocrite.” He describes […]
Living with someone like tomorrow might be their last is much harder to do when it is actually the case. My dad told me, after my nine-year old niece died, that a parent should never outlive their child. When I look at my own children, I know that is true. But with my parents aging process, […]
Supposedly, I’m peaking. And this isn’t about egg yolk and marenge pie. I’m 43 years old, have been in medical practice for fourteen years, and am looking at a canyon in 360-degrees from where I stand. That’s what the data says. I wonder if I am going to do the electric slide or how […]
Think of the worst of us. Think of the worst about us. Think of those with self-loathing. Those with low self-awareness, the violent, and the violated, think of them. Where is the blessing? Blessed are the depressed and anxious. Think of the healthy. Think of the diseased. The misunderstood, the ones who live miles […]
Muscled and gorgeous, he came in, like dessert, main course, and appetizer. Some people just carry themselves that way. It doesn’t work if they dress low, chest hair accentuated by opened buttons and glimmering chains. It doesn’t work if it’s their agenda, checking to see if you noticed, a finger hovering over the acoustic applause […]
Guest Post! Read on 🙂 We’re aware as smart single women that we can’t expect perfection. But life still manages to throw us curve balls. Maybe once you’re into your mid-thirties, it shouldn’t be called dating, it should be called waiting for the other shoe to drop. … Why is it always something? Unless you’re […]
“…and my mother again would say to me you can’t eat beauty, it doesn’t feed you and these words plagued and bothered me; I didn’t really understand them until finally I realized that beauty was not a thing that I could acquire or consume, it was something that I just had to be.” This woman […]
I so regret my distance lately from you here at Friend to Yourself! Thank you very much for your presence and forgiveness. I am not “gone” although quiet. My brain has been working on this idea of God and how he intersects with self-care, which has been challenging for me. I’ll start talking again soon. […]
I did it again! Left the house in my slippers. Mercy. Didn’t realize until I parked at work. So, I think again about balance and slipper reminders. Oh, and about the socks… I have my reasons. Smile. Question: What has been helping you toward balance? Please tell us. Self-care tip: Allow quirks in life to […]
Finished the CME talk I did last week and thought, you might find some use for it. I’ve received bad press many times for not being, in so many words, legit or academic enough. Check out the comments on my ECT book on Amazon.com for examples :). Maybe this one leaning into that bosom of greatness […]
Today was a great day to pick up sea glass. My intent was to get the walk in, until I saw the glass. Then my intent became intentions. For all of you who are throwing these bottles into the oceans, I prefer blue. Picking up sea glass is about as distracting to me as the […]
When I am an old psychiatrist, I’ll be looking at you through my purple eye folds, with my wrinkled pressed lips, eyeglasses pushed tightly to my face, pride propping up my several chins, incensed with the smells of my own medicated dying body. Proud of you. Proud of me. Not the kind of pride that […]
It is pervasive. We talk about salvation as if it is an event, a diploma, a point in time, something with a frame and boundaries and a rejection of everything else about us. Salvation is not this. Salvation is pervasive. Same with carrying your cross, going out into the world, and so forth. Salvation and […]
“Taylor Swift is a rock star!” The girl was in awe. She had written versions of this all over her paper in various star-quality designs. Everything was about Taylor Swift. I was watching her at the park and drifting among my own thoughts, when her father leaned over and said, “Now write, Susan is a […]
We have a tenuous relationship with ourselves. Very conditional, as if we were in a constant state of probation. Have you noticed? Conditional love: part of the human condition. I was reading the The Golem and the Jinni: A Novel, by Helene Wecker, and found myself getting into her golem-philosophy, that went something like this, Since so […]
The ocean is like an untended cemetery, compared to my youth dives, with shoots of life breaking up the stone and dead coral. A little family of forceps butterfly fish flutter around the tips of something brown. I honk sounds through the water to my kids when I spy a trumpet fish, a big one, […]