Where Do Emotions and Behaviors Come From?

Last night at our self-care workshop, we asked the question, Where do emotions and behaviors come from? The answers, were nice and varied; none the same.  It’s such a great question though, don’t you think?  It would be great to hear from you as well. Where do emotions and behaviors come from? Then, would you […]

Emotions come from the brain.

Margarit was a lovely twenty-something, with blue-black bouncing hair above a slim pixy framed physique. She smiled easily and chattered like she was on telephone call that was about to lose reception. Her hands moved, conducting her thoughts between us. She was dressed like one of the cool girls on campus, out of my echelon, […]

The Perfect Doctor – Healthy With Disease

One of the difficulties we have in talking to psych patients is realized with the dawning truth that we are not curing anyone.  Working in those conditions of not curing, you both, patient and psychiatrist, have to come to terms with each others’ agendas.  The physician says, “(‘I’m a failure.’)  I can’t cure anything.”  Now eye […]

Handout – How to Talk to a Psychiatric Patient.

Finished the CME talk I did last week and thought, you might find some use for it. I’ve received bad press many times for not being, in so many words, legit or academic enough. Check out the comments on my ECT book on Amazon.com for examples :). Maybe this one leaning into that bosom of greatness […]

Stigma and Me: Me-on-Me Crime

Me-on-Me Crime! I was doing my speed walking thing on the Balboa Beach cottage lined shore. Gorgeous, it was. Fluffy thoughts were everywhere. I was purposely passing under the low hanging docks to upscale some lower body muscles. Some string bean teens with their fishing poles moved into the water’s leisurely lipping edge ahead of me. […]

Exercise and the Brain – and Dancing to Enrique Iglesias

Greg went to arrange his annual colonoscopy.  Because he was having a chronic cough, his gastroenterologist (GI specialist) was wise enough to schedule him the “double dip” colonoscopy and endoscopy.  Greg was not pleased.  He was less pleased when Dr. GI found gastritis (inflammation) in his colon, an ulcer (inflammation) in his stomach, and esophogitis […]

How do we get ourselves to actually receive Love?

Despite the distance he had come, he still controlled much in his acts of intimacy.  The timing, the moves, the style, Bernard was not always aware even of how or when he called the how and when, but he did, still, on occasion, like someone with a clipboard and whistle. He was sincere in his […]

Old and Dying – Why We Are Still Alive

Sweaty, well-worn, in bike-ware, she was eating comfortably with her friend.  I kept trying not to stare and just had to fight it!  I wanted to imprint her shiny wrinkled yet blooming geriatric status and break down what I saw into categories of self-care moves to grow old by.  She looked really good. I managed […]

Getting Yourself Healthy Protects The Freedoms of Others

Some of our most difficult cases are when we, the medical care-givers, think we know better how to take care of someone than we do take care of ourselves. When a person maintains decision making capacity, but whose brain health disables them, if we care, we care. Monty was one of these.  He was ill! […]

Paper Doll Syndrome – Changing Symptomotology Can Be an Opportunity to Remember and Celebrate

Fred didn’t remember his panic.  He thought his main problem was his sleep.  His so-called “main problem” changed with his symptomatology.  Fortunately or unfortunately he didn’t know it was happening. Fred reminded me of a paper doll.  Now I’m a veterinarian, now I’m a clerk.  Of course there are all the stories that accompany each […]

Everything starts and ends with Me ….Still talking about it

You make your own definitions of Me, self, and friendship. This is mine I share because it is friendly to Me. It is not meant to be a template. I am the bride of Christ. When I speak of Me, I speak as one claimed by Love and in Love. When I speak of Me, […]

Owning Our Choices Is Self-Care Even When It Feels Painful To Do

Repost. Self-Care Tip – Own your choices, even when they feel painful. She was leaving after twenty-two years of marriage.  Eva married young and says that about one or two of those years were pleasant.  The rest of the time she disappeared in her service to her husband’s ever-growing list of needs.  Although he was […]

Don’t Let Your Sense of Need Get Away From You

Self-Care Tip:  Find your need, grip it tight enough to not let it be taken from you and loose enough that fatigue will not lose it for you. If we don’t know our need, if we don’t know our wanting, the reason we say “Evangelize,” “Buy this!,” “Don’t miss it!,” if we don’t know why […]

Hatred and Brain Health

Have you ever noticed that hating the person who hurt you is never enough?  The damage does not respond.  The edges do not come back together.  Hating them harder, hating them more effectively, with your voice, with your body, committing your talents toward their detriment, recruiting forces, community – this is not enough.  Finally, you […]