“I read a lot of self-help books, but look at all the difference it’s made in my life!” Sarcasm noted. My friend was coming out of a dark melancholy of several years and complained that bringing something from your head into your life is hard. Another case of trying to keep it real.
People call what we do “word play.” Mouth flappers. Those of us whose actions can’t keep up with our mind-matters fend off judgement like OJ Simpson. We’re guilty alright but it’s not murder folks. Let’s get into the empty seats to applaud the performance of Good Intentions. Good intentions come in degrees. There’s the thought, the desire, and then the levels of action that happen before and until execution. Not all life is like playing horseshoes. There is “win” in process too.
But my friend’s real beef was with the expectation she had that those books and their words would marinate her. Soak her until she smelled and tasted and essentially became something new and better. She didn’t think they did. How does someone somehow bring what is out there inside?
If you want more about some of the biological play on this, read this post. Basically if you are trying to grow, you are most successful working with a growing-style that is congruent with your temperament. There are other intersecting paradigms also, including spirituality, external stressors and biology. Bringing it inside is a balance between paradigms in life.
If I were speaking to my friend though, I’d applaud her thoughts, desires and degrees of action that have constituted her journey of Good Intentions. I’d invite her into the stands with me and take some time to watch a replay of the parts of her life that made her glad. That in itself opens us up to what needs to come in. And we are more able to keep on.
Self Care Tip # 55 – Applaud. Be a friend to yourself.
Question: Do you ever lose yourself in processing? Tell me your story.