In school, a people whom we drifted in and out of intimacy with, as kids will do, surrounded us. Regardless of intimacy, they were generally there the next day and the next day. Familiar faces, personalities, specific laughs, and voices you could pick out in any crowd. I’m pretty sure with many of them, I still could.
After many years without them there to see me fall off my chair, set a ball, share books, compare bra sizes, whisper, giggle – did I not miss them? But I did. Now however, through this technology-net, impossibly dispersed groups of people show their faces on my computer screen daily. And regardless of degrees of intimacy, they are witnesses again when I fall down and when I stand. I feel more alive! Even seeing an angle of someone’s jaw line can take me back to a lawn and a tree and a bench we used to share between classes. In almost real-time, I am laughing at their jokes, fame and foibles. Crying with them when they lose.
Certain things are even better than they were when we were in school. We don’t have as much time for closeting behaviors, hurts, shame. It leaves more room for the real self to occupy. Read more about this in the post “Sunshine.”
So to all you old (and new ) friends who have given me this privilege, thank you for catching me in your “net.” Life with you is better.
Self Care Tip #58 – Connect with others to feel more alive. Be a friend to yourself.
Question: What has helped you feel more connected? Please tell me your story.