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Self-Care Tip #158 – No matter why, where or what happens, self-care still starts and ends with Me.
It’s no secret that I look at behavior through many paradigms. Most of what I’ve shared on this blog is medical because I’m a physician. That’s my specialty. I’m not a physicist and don’t spend my posts on explaining how physics influences our behaviors – although I believe it does. However, I don’t want you to think that I think behaviors and emotions exist within only the medical paradigm, even though that’s what you hear me talk mostly about.
According to Dr. Q, the roughly sketched breakdown of how stress intersects with medicine:
1. Stress influences how we behave and feel. We “see” the stressors, and we see the emotional and behavioral responses, and we know their sources. We know that emotions and behaviors are produced by a human. Where else? Anything magical or otherwise comes from Someone from another place.
2. Stress influences our medical condition. Stress will awaken sleeping genes that carry the names of different diseases; cancer, major depressive disorder, schizophrenia, and so on. Would those genes have awakened on their own without the external trigger flipping the switch? We don’t always know.
3. Because there are so many factors that influence the reasons a disease process demonstrates itself, we cannot say that it is causally related to the stressors. Many people try to do this, and sometimes the disease’s labeled cause comes down to the jury’s decision. But we don’t have to have read, “To Kill A Mockingbird” by Harper Lee to know that people’s opinions and judgments are biased.
4. People try to find the reasons why. This is natural and in my opinion appropriate. However, where we look for the reasons for the feeling and behaviors is equally important. Seeking accountability for how we feel and behave to come from outside of ourselves, to come from external reasons, to come from a source to fault is more often missing our chance to get friendly with ourselves.
“It just is,” as many say, and the 12-Steps would say “Surrender what is out of your control to your Higher Power.” These are not inconsistent with owning that mental health begins and ends with Me.
Sure, there are the despicable situations of abuse, trauma, violence and other horrible biology changing events. These are known to cause the one non-genetically related psychiatric disease process called post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD.) These are situations consistent with our previous post on not being responsible for our history but being responsible for our futures.
5. Stress, other than in situations of PTSD, is not causal for the progression of mental illness. Everyone has stress, but how we deal with it, how we cope makes the difference. Even horrible events, such as losing ones wealth and the sequelae of it are not causal for the continuance of brain disease.
6. Medications, lifestyle change, Love and various other therapies effectively influences the way genes express themselves, our biology, and our medical condition….
7. …In so doing, medications, lifestyle change, spirituality and various other therapies effectively influence our emotions and behaviors.
Question: How has your understanding of how stress intersects with with how you feel and behave affected you? Please tell me your story.