“Mumford, The screenplay by Lawrence Kasdan, describes Henry Follet, a man who is living in his fantasies. The superior problem isn’t that he’s living in his fantasies however. It is that he has never been a character in them. They only included other people. At some point he gets more connected to his own journey, which is when he started appearing in his fantasies. Or one could say his fantasies became his reality.
Connecting to our journey is multidirectional. It includes the folding and opening of time. Someone asked me why I started this blog. I told him one of the reasons is that so much of what made me who I am was shelved when I went to medical school and then had children. Time is folding for me when I write now, connecting me here to where this writing-self was last seen then.
When avoiding crucial work, it is as if a broken person’s bits of self are walking their different directions. There is a divorce and the kids…. What does the father do? Five years later he is still trying to get the courage to ask them to love him again. Relapsing negative relationships, and she found herself again with someone abusive. Overweight, and still buying and bringing binge-foods home.
As Will Rogers said,
When you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging.
Immaterial things like our hopes can both connect us and disconnect us. When a thought like, “I wish I did…” comes, when employment is more a job than an interest, when anger flares often – look at times like this as opportunities to find your path. I found that this yearning in me was really a portal for my fantasies to come through and join me.
Self Care Tip #29 – Take your opportunity. Be a friend to yourself.
- Know What You Are Fighting For – Your Right To Journey. (friendtoyourself.com)
- What Is Your Most Core Desire? That Is Self-Care (friendtoyourself.com)
- Karen Talavera: The Journey Is The Destination (huffingtonpost.com)