We’re sitting at the piano practicing. She is smart, reading for a year already, beautiful in a way that scares me at times, has advantages that surround her just because. She isn’t thinking of these things though. She thinks about the things she is not. She says, “I can’t do that. I don’t know how.” She is not thankful just now about her opportunities.
I wondered, as I was sitting at the piano, if success and gratitude are collaborators.
Gratitude should not be conceived just in terms of a particular relationship. Gratitude is a philosophical emotion. It is, in a phrase, seeing the bigger picture. …And so viewed, being grateful for one’s whole life is not a “grateful to whom?” question so much as it is a matter of being aware of one’s whole life, being reflective in a way that most of us are not, most of the time.
-Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough, The Psychology of Gratitude
Seems like a little much to expect out of a 5 year-old? Maybe, maybe not. But it definitely is if her parent isn’t practicing awareness, reflection, gratitude.
We will have more success in our life’s ambitions if we practice gratitude. This much I will do and maybe, my little girl will learn to see herself differently too.
Self Care Tip #30 – Be aware. Be a friend to yourself.