Self-Care Tip – Give to others because you want to and have so much to give.
People who live in chaos, generally do because they want it. They are the ones who think you are the best one day and are screaming you down in the next. They pit team-members against each other. Without the team-members knowing what happened they are now distrustful of people they used to trust, feeling suspicious and defensive. The people who live in chaos have their own gravitational force for extremes. Extreme behavior finds them. They are suffering. No doubt, but at the same time, they thrive on this in some way. They choose it. Even so, they don’t know their choices and are ever the victim in any crime scene.
I have seen a few amazing life-stories unfold where these habits were reorganized into friendly behavior. It took years but every time I see these people, knowing where they came from, my mouth is open, my soul lays in splayed humility and I have new hope in the Love that heals us.
Clara was one such as this. I’m not going to tell you all of her story but let you know that now she has woven a net of support around her, people she spends time with, peer groups she attends. She takes her medications and doesn’t change the doses without discussing them first with me. She feels pleasure without having to be at an extreme.
Clara still has some people in her life who haven’t done this for themselves. Who haven’t worked on themselves and become their own friend and she has been tempted to “save” them at times. Clara just told me the other day,
I am not responsible for the fact that she doesn’t have any one else but me.
Clara has been tempted to stop investing in herself to invest more time caring for those who don’t care for themselves. But she didn’t. She maintains her health and investing in herself and she is still living. She gives to others because she has so much to give. Not because she is a victim to their taking. Clara continues to fight for herself and I respect her. I am learning still about doing this for myself and hope you are too. Out.
Questions: Have you ever seen these kinds of miracles in people’s lives around or in you? What was it like? Please tell me your story.
- Self-Care Works You, Pushes You, Tires You Out Until You Are Happily Spent On Your Friend – You (friendtoyourself.com)
- Owning Our Choices Is Self-Care Even When It Feels Painful To Do (friendtoyourself.com)
- Presence Encourages Self-Care (friendtoyourself.com)
- Children’s Books: Novels About Abusive Relationships (nytimes.com)