Self-Care Tip #222 – See the different parts of your self-care as independent yet dependent on each other.
One of my truest pleasures would be to teach well. My temperament is, per Myers-Briggs, designed to be a teacher and I agree that I feel inner congruence when I’m doing just that.
…If you’re feeling your hands closing into a bracing grip, it is probably because you, like many, really don’t want to be schooled – which has happened in my less refined moments, so caution is understood. This is not what I hope to do here.
After yesterday’s blog-post and comments received, it shows that I have not taught as well as I implied to myself. Implied intimacy is a danger of any familiar relationship, including with ourselves. The beauty of you guys, is you help me say things “out loud” decreasing misunderstandings. You guys are teaching me and I thank you. So whatever this is we are doing, learning, schooling, teaching or whatever it is that Mr. Rick C. does – what we are doing here together is mucho-much fun.
As we unravel the rug together, we see these threads,
- emotions and behaviors appropriate to context – yesterday we spoke about guilt
- emotions and behaviors inappropriate to context – yesterday we spoke about guilt as a symptom of medical illness
- the magical miraculous beyond our current understanding – before we “see face-to-face” – yesterday Carol Ann mentioned the changing power of God
- freedom to do self-care and related choices
- what choice yet remains when other choices are lost either by action or disease
- (this last one I’m just putting in here to finish the pretty rainbow) – helps me get in the barn where I’m comfortable
The reason I think it’s important to see these together yet apart, as well as we can (through a glass dimly), is that too much of one or another of these, diminishes the results of our self-care intentions. Don’t mistake this for preaching that one can get too much of God in their lives. It just isn’t true and not in our best interest to get waylaid.
Questions: How do you see yourself more effective in your self-care efforts and what has influenced those improvements? In what way have certain bits of your self-care gotten “too much” attention? Please tell me your story.
- Does What You Live For Make Life Better For You or Worse? (friendtoyourself.com)
- Self-Care Is About More Than “Me” (friendtoyourself.com)