Self-Care Tip#149 – Receive when a gift is offered. Be a friend to yourself.
I am totally charmed. Sitting in the coffee-shop, and this lovely man came up and handed me his James Patterson book. “I’m going to throw it away and thought you might like to read it. I’m done and it was great.” Judge and Jury looks suspenseful and I’m too fragile I think for it, but I took it anyway. I was more charmed by the intent and character of the giver.
I try to tell my daughter about this. When someone offers you a gift, just accept it. It’s not so hard. Say thank you and in doing so, give them the gift of giving and receive the gift of receiving. It’s powerful for both parties. The ability to receive isn’t always natural. It’s something I’ve tried to understand my whole life.
Well, I didn’t catch the name of the book-man but we chatted despite lacking that social etiquette. He saw my blog-site on my open computer screen and discovered my background in mental health.
“I have problems,” he said. “Really I do.” Maybe he was used to people not believing him and added that to add emphasis. “I have anxiety.” “Oh.” I said. “That’s torture.” “It is!” book-man said. “We don’t choose our emotions! I used to think we did, but we really don’t!” I heard it from the source. Speak it book-man! We don’t always choose our emotions.
We didn’t talk long. He walked off before I could offer too much. Maybe it was the anxiety that called him away. I felt sad and happy. Sad, because his suffering connected with me. Happy, because of all the people in here, he and I connected.
Connecting with people any time any where is a small bit of the supernatural. It’s not something that we can distil, put in a tube or slide under a microscope. It’s not something that obeys even the excellent paradigm of temperaments. It comes both expectedly and unexpectedly. It comes deliberately through labor and through chance. An airborne-something from the spirit world. This is not to say that the natural isn’t also family, the dear child of the supernatural. It’s just that there is a unique charm in the unknowing.
And so the book-man and the unknown connection stays with me even now after he is gone. His anxiety, his reaching out, his generosity, the Me drawn into his space and he into mine. I am receiving and he gave.
Thank you Great Supernatural and Natural God for this.
Question: When do you connect despite the anxiety of being in the position of receiving? Please tell me your story.
- Emotions: The Physical Gift We Can Name (friendtoyourself.com)
- Connecting to Others is a Condition of Freedom Rather Than Loss of It. (friendtoyourself.com)