Guest Post from Melissa Lesofski.

Melissa is a single, professional, and educated woman who is speaking out about what it is for her, unmarried.

“I don’t think we should live up to a list of what others think we should be.  Nor a list from a person we are dating. I think we should make our own and use it as our guide. 

Make a list of all of the qualities that we want in a spouse (because ultimately that is the purpose of dating, to discover what qualities are important to Me).  Should s/he be funny? Pretty? Christian? Confident? Etc etc.  Then go back through that list and hold ourselves to the same standard.  My thoughts were when I first did this was that I was never going to find who I wanted to be with if I didn’t hold myself to the same standards that I wanted from my partner….what if the person I end up with is making a list too?”

Does this not relate to us in any station?  Be the person we want to be loved by.  It sounds awfully familiar to us starting with Me, where everything does, where freedom is.  Me, the wonderland where we actually have power to make changes.  Me, to who whom we give, and then actually have something to give to others.

Question:  How has growing your list improved your connections?  What is on your list?  Please tell us your story.

Self-Care Tip:  Write a list of what you would like to do in your life to be the person you would like to be loved by.  Be a friend to yourself.