We have many chances to start and restart taking care of ourselves. Lots.
When things get so bad though, sometimes we have to stop everything and declutter our lives to make room for self-care. It might be dramatic. It might represent many missed opportunities of self-care that accumulated into a heap of messy angry resentment. However, we can hope that those times in life are few. The majority of our moments and days we hope are not extreme renovations.
It reminds me of the verse from Ecclesiastes 12:1
Remember now your Creator in the days of your youth, while the evil days come not, nor the years draw near, when you shall say, I have no pleasure in them.”
Even our relationship with God is developed by the little choices along the way. In personal relationships with God or with man, they hold beauty, they bring pleasure because we did what was right for ourselves “in the days of our youth.” Because we did, we don’t have much to resent them for. We are available emotionally to connect with our “Other.” We can see them. We can be present.
And when the stressors hit, the “evil days,” as they do come inevitably to every relationship, we can say that we remember the good times. There is bank there to get us through the bad.
As said to me today by the Australian Labradoodles breeder, Tiffany Aveling, taking care of ourselves along the way avoids “death-bed conversions.” Those big swings. Those, “I’m changing everything about my life,” type of changes. They might be necessary. However, they usually hurt a lot.
In the film, Avatar, directed by James Cameron, we hear over and over the lovely quote,
I see you.
That is a gift we can give better when we can give the gift of a healthy self.
Self Care Tip #41 – Take the little chances. Be a friend to yourself.
Question: What did you think? Do you see this in action in your life?