Some time, I’d like to come back to our bullying series as there is still some help to be had for us. However, today, my cherubs are asleep and it’s only seven PM. My feet are up. I’m sitting by lots of beauty colored in varied hues of sunset, shadow and dusk. Tonight will be short. I will let today end and indulge the coming together of these things. (I am even drinking reheated coffee with lots of whipped cream!)
What I have thought of to share with you my friends, as I’ve enjoyed its friendly work on me today, is the pleasure that should be ours in emotional health.
Bad things will come. We will have anger, lower communication and such. We will wish we hadn’t pushed the call button on the phone by accident when yelling. BUT. But (“Mommy you said a potty word!”). But it will pass. It will not define our day or our perception of self. We won’t catastrophize and we will trust ourselves to show love and mercy to Me in our weakness. This is a pleasure to experience. This is what comes when we have brain health.
If this is what has always been your reality, well great. BUT. But (“Mommy! Why did you say that?). But, many of us know what it is to crave for days when we can say that the blow-ups, outs and ins don’t blot out the sun. They shouldn’t. The pleasure comes with health. Go for it! You are worth it. You were made to feel pleasure.
Questions: When was it that you realized that your emotions and behaviors didn’t rule you or someone you love any more? What did/does that mean to you? Please tell me your story.
(Ah! There goes the last of the sun and the trees are now silhouettes.)
Self-Care Tip #257 – Go for the pleasure of trusting yourself to respond with healthy emotions and behaviors.
- Do You Feel Pleasure? Lacking The Ability to Feel Pleasure Leads to Suffering. (friendtoyourself.com)
- Have You Hugged Yourself Today? (livingselfcare.wordpress.com)
A few years back I decided to stop criticizing my adult children. I found things to encourage, compliment and enjoy. Why should I be a source of stress or discomfort? By making themselves feel worthy about themselves they conducted themselves in a much more productive manner. I merely buried that old crotchety man and became Jumpin Jack Flash !
u r so beautiful carl! thank u for sharing your story w us. this is a good story too. keep on.
What a lovely lesson, Carl!
I agree with Sana and Cindy, Carl. Thank you for sharing.
It’s not nice to kick yourself when you’re down. God is good and kind and gentle to me, so one day I decided that I should treat myself like He does. Sometimes I backslide on that, but then I remind myself. It’s not nice to kick yourself when you’re down. Blessings to you, Sana…
no it’s not nice carl. thank u for that affirmation. I agree w that line of thought re: how God treats us too. I’ve often marvelled about how many of us tell each other to treat ourselves so poorly in the name of God. too nice to hear this from u. thx.
Still a work in progress and getting more freedom all the time.
keep on M. i like your art and construction
I agree, Carl is inspiring.
Often on the days when I feel crotchety, the fact that I feel grumpy makes me even grumpier. Grr. I am working on taking a lesson from Carl.
Also, fish oil helps a bunch.
Mercy is a good word. Now, onto your series about self-forgiveness. 😉
that tail chasing thing of self-abuse. i hear u.
what’re u saying re: self-forgiveness series? hm. maybe we could team that one?