Self-Care Tip #105 – Grow up, think on your own, and stay connected. Be a friend to yourself.
Staying connected doesn’t mean loosing your freedom. Staying connected doesn’t mean immaturity. And independent thought doesn’t mean disconnecting from others or your foundation in life.
When we move into adulthood, we move into roles requiring responsibility, autonomous decision-making, teaching like parents. This is confusing don’t you think when we were designed to be connected? Well when something feels so wrong inside, listen to it. There is a incongruence with what you intuitive know. Independence includes dependence
Adulthood means learning to have creative thought while being willing to learn. It means disconnecting while remaining connected. It’s not all-or-none. It’s seeing the strength in vulnerability. Part of taking care of “Me” includes choosing dependence.
Dependence never takes away freedom. Sometimes when I listen to people telling me how I should feel or think, I feel caged and start doing things to make me feel less caged. Unfortunately sometimes that isn’t a healthy thing, like eating chocolate or… well it’s often eating for some reason. Other people do this too. They may cut on themselves or bang their head. Unnecessary, because we are free no matter. Drugs. Whatever it is that in the moment somehow springs you from the phantom cage only to put you in another.
Question: How do you live free yet connected? How do you deal with feelings of infancy, immaturity, loosing freedom when it comes? Please tell me Your story.
- Definition of a successful adult: Part I (psychologytoday.com)
- Jenifer Fox: Students Need Things We Don’t Teach (huffingtonpost.com)