Self-Care Tip #246 – Take care of yourself and expect that what comes from others is a gift.
Do you ever ask,
Why does drama follow me?!
It is just darn hard taking care of ourselves (including taking psychotropic medication.) Much of the rest of the world has difficulty with it too. Despite our best efforts to go towards what is friendly, we might decide that choosing the company of un-self-cared-for loved ones is more friendly to ourselves than cutting them off. That is our choice. If we want them in our lives, we are not able to just take the bits that are friendly.
Some of us are more dramatically affected by this than others. Wonder about why that is. I’m wondering if it has to do with our different perspectives of who will take care of us.
Feeling like someone else is going to take care of Me is a trap. Expecting someone else to find us for love, to expect leadership, to follow without accounting for our steps, to decide without knowing we decided, thinking someone else decided for us – these are traps.
What do we expect other people to be for us? We will interpret the drama we encounter differently when we are our own leader. If we take care of ourselves and if we come in a state of readiness then we can offer more of these gifts and visa versa. Gifts are free and as free of agenda as our flawed selves can give.
We embrace our emotional self, our thinking self, our judgmental self, our sensory self, embrace and live ourselves up most fully, and we are most friendly when we do it with the freedom our lives were designed for.
Drama will always come up as long as we think that someone is worth being in our lives. We will remember that we chose them and can choose quantity of time, the volume, the reception and the degree of connection. We can choose freely what we will do or not do with them and live and die surrounded inside of ourselves and outside of ourselves by the connections we fought hard for.
Questions: Why do you think drama is in your life from the perspective of self-care? Since you’ve been more in tune to being a friend to yourself, has anything happened to the drama in your life? Please tell me your story.
- Self-Care Does NOT Always Mean Doing What You Want (friendtoyourself.com)
- Self-Care Is About More Than “Me” (friendtoyourself.com)