It’s just hard!
It is hard. Do you feel like a victim?
Yes I do? It’s hard when they are making you feel this way and no one gets it unless they are here fighting against both sides like I have to.
Juanita’s self-perception and emotions; suffering is special and specific to Me, I am chosen to suffer, I am alone in my suffering and I am helpless, were carried by the air particles through our room.
In 1910, Russian botanist Mikhail Tsvet used water to do this to plant dyes. The water in the plant dyes carried the pigment, separating them for his needs. This is now called chromatography and we use it to determine what makes up a particular flavor or scent, to analyze pollutants, to find traces of drugs in urine, and to separate blood proteins. You might remember doing this yourself as a child in the simple science experiment with a marker, a couple drops of water and a coffee filter.
Juanita’s son also knew about chromatography, I could tell. He may not have called it that with words, but he did call it out with his body, his eyes and the muscles around his lips told me as I watched that the emotions had made their way over to him and that he was bringing them inside.
Some people call emotions contagious and others may describe them as spreading. No one thinks they don’t travel. No one thinks they remain stationary. In fact, if we were to reduce everything in the known world, living and nonliving matter, and expand our thoughts into a large large amount of time, we’d agree that nothing is stationary. Furthermore, everything is changed by the influencers in its universe.
Juanita’s son knew this even if he didn’t cognitively piece it together. He was taking in his mom’s emotions and they were making their changes on him.
What I asked Juanita was if it mattered in the end. She’s still left with herself, regardless of where things came from. We’d like to think others should take care of us, at least not do damage to us, but if they don’t or if they do, in the end, we are left with ourselves. All these perceived degrees of abuse she suffered – what now?
Saying we are left with ourselves, accountable to ourselves and should take care of ourselves is not making any statement about the condition of our connections with the world around us. It’s just talking about Me. Sometimes we perceive how others take care of us, sometimes we don’t. The same goes with feeling alone and so forth. But that isn’t about accountability to ourselves.
I would have liked to have said the same thing to Juanita’s son but couldn’t. I hope he learns it from watching his mother. If he or mom gain insight into this and can act on that insight, wonderful. If they cannot do one or the other though, I’d bet there’s something biological going on and need to take care of themselves by looking for medical help.
Question: How do you perceive accountability to yourself being different from where the problems drift towards you from? Or from how you have been changed by problems? Please tell me your story.
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