I woke up and thought, I love and am loved. I heard the birds. I recognized different songs. I know “our” birds outside our door. So grateful. The morning noises in the house, kids – This is what I pray about when I pray, “Be between me and thee while we are apart one from another.”
Every day takes us. We go toward and away. We connect and disconnect. What do you hope stays close when you weave your pattern? When you are taken into your day?
It may be a day. It may be education. It may be divorce, bankruptcy, or a change in condos that takes you. It may be as simple as getting a haircut.
As hairstylist Jane said, “I see people come in here all day trying so hard to be unique, and I can’t believe that they don’t see just how un-unique they are.” She was noticing that “unique” implies disconnect. Those of us in this condition may be grooming toward disconnectedness and missing that even the pursuit of this is inherently a connecting force between me and thee.
Let us acknowledge the connections, not fear them.
Back in the day, there was Laban and Jacob, who had shared space for many years. When they separated, they artfully practiced connection.
Now therefore come thou, let us make a covenant, I and thou; and let it be for a witness between me and thee.And Jacob took a stone, and set it up for a pillar.And Jacob said unto his brethren, Gather stones; and they took stones, and made an heap: and they did eat there upon the heap….And Laban said, This heap is a witness between me and thee this day. And Mizpah (“watchtower”); for he said, The LORD watch between me and thee, when we are absent one from another.
Here, many centuries later, we remember our declaration of independence from Great Britain on July 4, 1776. It is our watchtower of sorts, a time when we celebrate our freedom, beautifully crafted into what brings us together. Freedom is not synonymous with disconnection. It is the ability to choose, to move in and out, to live with boundaries that are made of ribbons rather than walls, to have distance and still remain close to where our heart is.
Questions: What connections over Independence Day weekend are you celebrating? Please speak out. We need to hear you.
Self-Care Tip: Let your uniqueness and freedom be a connecting force in your life. Be a friend to yourself.