The trenches are not the pathology.
The stressors, the triggers, the many things that go very wrong every fraction of a second in our lives—these are not the pathology. These are normal. These are what we all have.
The pathology is being alone.
Don’t hang out in the morass of bad-alonen. Be in community. Push for that in your life. It may not come “naturally.” Community is part of self-care.