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January 28, 2011 by Sana Johnson-Quijada MD

What Was Missing Was You

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Self-Care Tip #165 – Be humble.  Be a friend to yourself.

Question:  What has helped you connect more since you’ve been more friendly with yourself?  Please tell me your story.

We all crave connection, no matter what temperament.  Some are more vocal about wanting connection, more active in pursuing it, more talented at acquiring it, more connected and some are less.  But any way we are turned, we want to connect.  To resonate.  To know and be known.

I was talking with Joana Johnson, author of blog-site Creating Minds, about what has changed in our lives since we started blogging.  Aside from having a lot less free time, we both agreed that we were more connected because of it.  Connected to you, readers and commenters.

But what was missing before the blog?  Before internet?  Before hours of effort to fasten super long, super thin feelers out over the hill and through the glade to all of you?  Maybe these things:

  1. Time.
  2. Our Essence.
  3. Hearing the intention in what people say.
  4. Demanding with your life to be known.
  5. Not personalizing things that aren’t about “Me.”
  6. Accepting the gift of connection when it is offered.
  7. Liking myself.
  8. Trust the eternal truth that connection is more than our perceptions.
  9. Being healthy.

And the big #10 that Joana and I marveled over…

Humility.

It’s not easy to connect when we think we are better than others.  Feeling superior is a big burden.  We don’t take what people say seriously.  It’s hard to get to close to someone when your feathers are all spread out, peacock style.

You readers and commenters have done all of these things for me, (and probably for each other.)  You have given me your time and your essence.  You have heard my intentions when I didn’t say things so well.  You have shown me how to live courageously and demand to know and be known.  You have turned my focus away from Me, and gave me the mysterious capacity to receive these gifts from you.  I like myself better and I trust more.  I’ve worked hard over the last six months of blogging to be as healthy as I can be and I am interested, motivated, and hopeful to continue to do that – in part, because I see you doing it too.  And you have shown me through your humility that you will have me, and I will have you.

What was missing from having a sense of this degree of connection in my life before blogging?  Simply put, you.

Your Own,

Sana Johnson-Quijada MD

P.S. Enjoy Mac Davis – Oh Lord It’s Hard to Be Humble

Oh Lord it’s hard to be humble
when you’re perfect in every way.
I can’t wait to look in the mirror 

‘cos I get better looking each day
to know me is to love me

I must be a hell of a man.
O Lord it’s hard to be humble
but I’m doing the best that I can.

I used to have a girlfriend
but I guess she just could’n’t complete
with all of these lovestarved women
who keep clamouring at my feet.
Well I probably find me another
but I guess they’re all in awe of me

who cares I never get lonesome
cause I treasure my own company.

Oh Lord it’s hard to be humble
when you’re perfect in every way.
I can’t wait to look in the mirror

‘cos I get better looking each day
to know me is to love me

I must be a hell of a man.
O Lord it’s hard to be humble
but I’m doing the best that I can.

I guess you can say I’m a loner

a cowboy outlaw tough and proud
Well
I could have lots of friends if I wanted
but then I wouldn’t stand out from the crowd

some folks say that I’m “egotistical
well I don’t even know what that means
I guess it has something to do with the
way that I fill out my skintight blue jeans.

Oh Lord it’s hard to be humble
when you’re perfect in every way.
I can’t wait to look in the mirror

‘cos I get better looking each day
to know me is to love me

I must be a hell of a man.
O Lord it’s hard to be humble
we are doing the best that we can.
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