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Self-Care As it Affects Your Professional Self

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Self-Care Tip #236 – Think about what self-care is doing for your professional self.

When speaking with managing editor of the Journal of Participatory Medicine (JoPM,) Kathleen O’Malley yesterday, I struggled to explain the presumed simple description of what effect self-care has had over the past many months on my professional self.  I realized that I hadn’t spoken much about that yet.  The words spilled out, messy and ungraceful.  I’d like to say it better so I’m going to try again, and then many more times.  Self-care has helped me be a better physician.

I see people differently.  I look at them from the self-care angle.  I look for those sticky bits where we can connect and collaborate.  I expect things from them.  I ally myself with their self-respect, with their intuitive desire to be a friend with themselves.  I am bored at work when I don’t do this.  I am bored at work when my patients don’t do this too.  Yes.  My quality of practice has definitely improved.

Who isn’t blessed when they see the courage to face stigma, shame and bewildering illness?  Who isn’t more informed every time someone chooses the freedom to do self-care, chooses to live when disease is damaging them, fights hard like my niece did and shows what that fight is worth?  Who doesn’t learn from that?  Who doesn’t want more?  When someone loses their identity to the defacing ravages of disease but still knows who they are, is for me, one of the best places in the world to be.

Working harder on myself personally is working harder to improve myself professionally.  One healthy is another healthy Me.  Self-care has helped me find more pleasure at work because I know I am responsible about how I feel when I’m there.  I take care of myself when I’m there and then I’m able to give more to my patients because of it, including just being present.

Being present is really a lot to get and a lot to give.  I sense this in my kids who want me to see them.  They call out for observation of activities; riding without training wheels, jumping super high, running in fast shoes, building awesomeness.  But those are code.  They want me to see them.  I just can’t do that when I’m self-neglected.  It carries over in all spheres of my life, including the office.  Who wants to consult a physician who is half asleep in the chair?  (Now if I need a nap, I just go all the way and sleep! j/k.)

I know my self-care is participating in the practice of this kind of medicine with you.  I’m hoping to get better saying it.

Questions:  What has self-care done for you in your professional world?  How has it helped you work better as a team-member?  How has it helped you receive better from others who have something to give – such as teach you or give directions?  Please tell me your story.

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Self-Care Tip #88 – Win yourself over.  Be a friend to yourself.

Dr. White works with mostly women in primary care medicine.  She tells me that her women so often come in tired, overextended, and they say they don’t feel good.  She wonders why they think they can run 2 full-time jobs (parenting and employment) without suffering for it.  Her counsel is to down scale.

My patients do so much better when they are working part-time.

Christie, a mom of 3 who works full-time, tells me tonight,

It’s hard.

That’s not new news but nor is it small news.  How many of us nod when on the subject of self-care.  We sagely stroke our chin yet are nowhere to be found on the list of topics of interest.  Do we even get pleasure out of taking care of ourselves?

I think there’s a misperception here.  The hard part is not doing the 2 jobs that Dr. White’s patients work.  It is working our own person.  Maybe if we found more pleasure in caring for ourselves we would.  Maybe if we connected that caring for ourselves is the minus-1 to the starting point of caring for others.  We can get hooked.  We can.  But it won’t be the same for all of us.   Any way you turn it though, we have to make it sticky, linked to pleasure, and making sense.

Question: Is there anything specific you can think of that contributes to self-care being a positive thing in your life?  Please tell me your story.

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A Little Bit is Not Enough – Claim Full Health

The good news is, I just ate 3 chocolate chip cookies.  You already know the bad news.  Has nothing to do with my post.  I’m just sharing it for the sake of your own

Schadenfreude 🙂

…Onward.  Question:

Does emotional disease get worse even while on medication therapy?  Sometimes.  It does so more often when the disease process is treated but only partially treated.  Read a little more about this in this post if your interested.  A primary care physician recently told me, “I think the term ‘Partial Responder’ is a marketing gimmick to get physicians to prescribe more medications.  I don’t think it even exists.”

There’s a lot to be said about interview skills in sussing out the partial responder.  If I asked someone if they felt better, many things play into their response. Everyone’s responses are biased of course.  We don’t have sterile minds.  For example there’s the patient who wants to please their physician.  “Yes I’m better!”  i.e. “Yes you’re a good doctor!”  There are the patients who don’t want to be patients and minimize whatever they’re going through.  There is the physician who leads the interview.  “So, you’re feeling better?”  “The medication is helping?”

Partial response means that at the end of a full treatment initiation period, there is some disease remaining but a reduction of disease.  For example, in depression, I may no longer be suicidal, but I still have trouble feeling pleasure in life.  In cancer it means that there is tumor reduction of at least 30%.

Now why would a physician presumably agree that there is a partial response in cancer, but not agree that it happens in mental health?  Anyways….  (Ahem.)  When we partly respond to mental health treatment and don’t push further for full response, about 70% will relapse.  Versus maybe 25% in those who reached their pre-disease baseline emotional health through treatment.

Don’t get lost in this.  The point is, get treated and get fully treated.  Mental illness is progressive and causes changes at the cell level.  The brain is connected to the rest of our body.  The brain is human.  A bit better, is not enough.

Self Care Tip #61 – Go all the way!  Claim health.  Be a friend to yourself.

Question:  Did you find this to be true in yourself or someone you know?  Please tell me your story.