Self-Care Tip # 85 – When you have problems, find the difference in you.
The best thing I heard today when I was down and out was, “It’s ok to feel that.” What a gift! In one strike, I dumped a load of related concerns because I believed it! I remembered saying that same thing somewhere… to someone(s) else at other times…. 😉 It is good to remember. It is good to be reminded if we can’t. Whatever it takes, just remember or get reminded that it is ok to feel, however we feel. What matters is what we do with our feelings. I owe that to my dear Dad.
Everyone has problems. The difference between you and someone else is what you do with your problems.
How I miss the days of my Dad’s young healthy self. I will always keep his essence and look for him come the new creation. I will know him. He will have a body that speaks his essence materially. He will look like a warm fuzzy I’ve decided.
It was always ok to feel any way I felt around him. He mostly didn’t notice, so he had that going for him. But when he did, he told me these 3 things.
- I wasn’t alone in having problematic feelings.
- They don’t have to be a problem.
- I have a choice of what to do with them.
When a patient comes in with a strangle hold on feelings that have abused them, I think “Alright!” They are making a choice. “Let’s see what they’ll do.”
This morning my husband told me “It’s ok to feel that.” He handed me an invitation to not isolate, to feel but not be in trouble because of it, and to choose what I would do next.
Everyone has problems, after all.
Self-Care Tip #85 – When you have problems, find the difference in you. Be a friend to yourself.
Question: What has been the difference for you? Do your feelings cause you problems? Please tell me your story.
Friend to Yourself 
I like this idea of doing different things, or is that doing things differently?
I can immediately think of four things!
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Nice take Thys le Roux. Thanks. But the suspense is too much! What?
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“…to feel but not be in trouble because of it…”
I really like how you wrote/articulated that… I relate to what you’ve captured there on so many levels.
There is something about the way you have phrased that…like a lens through which to view my whole life. Hmmm….
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Thanks Sarah. I’ve always had a thing about people telling me how to feel. “Calm down.” “Perk up.” “Chill out.” “Take it easy.” “Look on the bright side.” Telling someone how to feel is very violating. To feel and know that it’s ok, is the opposite. Whatever that is.
Glad u can relate! Thank u for commenting and connecting. From one emoter to another! Keep on!
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