Self-Care Tip #130 – Ask for help. Be a friend to yourself.
The last two days we’ve talked about self-care,
1. Bringing pleasure to be sticky
2. Starting and ending with “Me.”
The natural progression is to now discuss,
3. Taking care of ourself when we cannot. When we Cannot take care of “Me.”
Still responsible for the single person that God gave us to take care of, “Me,” we lie down unable to move. Unmotivated, maybe too scared to do what we need to do, emotions awry, other medical problems chorusing in with pain, stomach upset, even infertility – our own brain betrays us in our need.
When we cannot trust our own brain, our own selves, whom can we trust?
Some of us have found our answers to that. Our lives starting and ending with God, we go where He is. But the brain is ill and, sometimes, suspicious of the rest of us around without a visible halo. When people point at me, and say, “God can heal me. Do not you believe that?!” I say, “Yes. God is the Great Psychiatrist. I love that we are in the same line of work.” And I do.
I do my best to help tell, educate, and offer opportunities that lead to healing for ill people to choose. It is their choice. Self-care in the context of illness, of losing the ability to care for yourself, is a place of vulnerability. We show our jelly sides, the places without defense and we ask for help. Taking care of our selves includes asking for help. Scary, undefined, entrusting yourself with outside sources takes the courage that only those with mental illness could know.
Asking for help does not mean that the thread of self-care has left you. It cannot really. You being its source. Do not be confused by the obvious. Outside help does not mean you are not doing self-care.
When we cannot do our own self-care, we ask for help. Asking for help is self-care.
(In reality, everyone doing self-care needs to know when to ask. Healthy or ill, we cannot be good at it all. We are creatures who need each other.)
When we cannot trust our brain, find someone(s) else we are willing to invite to join our self-care efforts. Ask for help.
Question: How has asking for help been for you? Please tell me your story.
- Doctor Patient (distractible.org)
- You: Giving voice to coping with mental illness – Tidewater News (news.google.com)