Give Yourself Over to Connection In Your Good-Bye

Michael Scott (The Office)

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Hello folks.  Just cried my eyes out watching the well-developed character of Michael Scott close out his work at The Office.  What is it that moved me so much?  The connection.  Michael Scott, played by the talented Steve Carol, ended his performance with the question,

They say that at your death-bed you’re never going to wish you spent more time at the office.  Not me.  I’m going to wish I had more….  Who are the people you work with?  Your very best friends in the world.

I could barely breath at this point.  Pile of tissues on the table.  My stunned husband letting me blubber goo on his shirt.  He asked,

What is it that you liked so much?

Only my husband would ask what I liked in the middle of a good cry.  He knows that crying doesn’t mean I don’t like what’s happening.  He knows my twisted ways.  Connection is lovely enough to like, miraculous enough to marvel over, worthy enough to lose my cool over.  It is after all one of our favorite topics here at  It is after all what you and I have shared, working so hard for, spending hours every day writing or whatever it is that each of us do to grow that fragile yet strong wonder of humankind – connection.  This bit of self-care follows us into heaven, or leads. Who knows, follow and lead, when we are connected.

Within the friendly grip of connection, in this marvelous episode, we see that good-byes might bring us even closer together.  I see this all the time in crisis settings, hospitals, illnesses, pending closures to something that was loved.  The closure draws us closer into what good the connection had offered us.  To improve what we had previously thought was so good that it was beyond improving.  To draw forth, our greater selves.

Self-Care Tip #  – Give yourself over to the miracle of connection in all your good-bye’s.

Questions:  What makes connection part of self-care?  How have you been a better friend to yourself by the influence of connections?

16 thoughts on “Give Yourself Over to Connection In Your Good-Bye

  1. Part of who we are is defined by others. We have a self concept independent of the external world , but we need connection and interaction for validation and being able to navigate successfully brings us into harmony. We also can then be conscious of being a source of that harmony and not the originator of conflict. PS I thoughtThe Office was one of the worst things on TV. Would rather watch the Weather Channel.


  2. I have never watched that series Sana, but I do understand that kind of connection and not just with well developed characters, but also beloved animals. When old yeller died the sobs were soul wrenching.
    I cannot imagine how two dimensional life would be without connections that stir us. To cry like that is a cleansing I think, and a reaffirmation that we are alive.


  3. Connecting to and connections with this blog site have been the best thing I have done in becoming a friend to myself. Thanks for being here.


  4. Gosh, does’t sound like our Ricky Gervais Office in the UK at all!

    Goodbye is the last chance to say something; so maybe we are emboldened at a time like this to say what we wouldn’t any other time.


    • laughing. i’ve heard that we yanks w u brits enjoy diff humor before. but then i think about so many of the marvelous hilarious talented actors, writers, entertainers that i enjoy from Britain and i think, we can’t b that entirely off? 😉
      i like your reflections though. thanks!


  5. Great advice. I was particularly touched by your description of the connection you and your husband share. Good bye’s are an awesome opportunity for this miraculous thing called connection. The desire to create and nurture personal connections are an imperitive part of our “needs” as humans. We all can benefit from learning ways to recognize these connections when we experience them. May we all hone our skills of connection detection so that we may enjoy this miraculous thing through all phases and stages of our personal relationships.


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