I’ll get to it when things slow down for me.
I can’t handle one more stress on top of the kids and all the people who take, take, take.
Don’t take this away! It’s my only vice!
I don’t have time because I’m working so much.
There are so many good reasons to wait for self-care. I don’t belittle them. I do them too. There’s a reason we here at FriendtoYourself.com call self-care the hardest work. It is not for anyone who isn’t willing to go through the fire of putting themselves first.
“The fire,” you say? Yes. Fred taught me that. He was down twenty pounds, working out almost every day with aerobic and anaerobic exercises, putting his ear-plugs in when sounds escalated his nerves, more motivated, interested and active. Fred was growing again. He said that it had been years since he’d done any of these things for himself and couldn’t believe what the world looked like when he felt so good.
Fred was sad though. Not depressed. No, he hadn’t been depressed for at least a year on his medication and even less so since he was taking care of himself physically. But sad. His wife wasn’t interested in his changes, she was disconnected emotionally, and more so every day it seemed to him as he began to change physically, emotionally and behaviorally. His friends were growing distant. He wasn’t interested in office politics either. It was a simultaneous coming together of life in himself and a falling away of the life connection in his “previous life,” as he called it. Surprisingly, the people he loved the most weren’t so happy for him. Weren’t supportive of him. He was sad for that. There are never gains without losses.
This is not to forget the new relationships he was growing. There was new life all around him and he still maintained hope for the connections he had before. But those people who he had called his own for years were the ones who gave him all the reasons to wait for self-care. He was way past waiting. He was already on the other side enjoying the sun.
Question: What have you overcome to get at your own self-care? Is there anything your are still waiting to do? Please tell me your story.
*Art work (assumed) courtesy of carldagostino.wordpress.com.
- Think About What You Have. The Season of Epiphany. (friendtoyourself.com)
- Choose Self-Care At Your Most Elemental Level (friendtoyourself.com)
- Taking Care of Yourself is The Best Part of Your Treatment Cocktail. (friendtoyourself.com)