Self-Care Tip #196 – When you are hurting, remember the pain doesn’t define life’s potential. Be a friend to yourself.
Yesterday we talked about giving and getting bad news without fear. This was received in a spectrum of ways by you, ranging from – no way is bad news something not to be scared of, to, bad news might be something we could face knowing we might find something good in the end. No one slammed the hammer down, dinging red at bad news equals good all around – except my dogs who don’t listen anyway and are pretty much always happy.
Jjen was brave, saying,
I would have to also agree that in some cases bad news can bring family members, or even friends together that have been estranged. This has personally happened to me. Kind of a bittersweet thing; good in result of something bad and mending a broken relationship.
“Good comes out of bad.” Not everyone agrees and I don’t blame them. Some bad things are better left alone to rot and stink out of our lives entirely. It even sounds patronizing when someone is hurting to say this. This kind of discovery should be made by the parties involved, without the rest of us holding scripted cue cards for them.
It is also something that is received easier from another who has been in, or is in their own catastrophe(s), losses, abuse or grief – say Jesus for starters. I could hear this from Him without wanting to vomit all over the place. He’s been there, hurt bad, and has been blessed through and by it in ways I will be learning about even after Time unhinges.
When my nine year-old adored niece suddenly died, I didn’t see that. It’s taken almost six years to see anything good come “from” this unbelievable loss we grieve every moment. The bad doesn’t disappear for me, but as Jjen said, it is not a qualifier for the rest of life’s potential.
Question: What has come “from” the bad in your life – more bad or what? Please tell us your story.