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I’ve been doing my usual struggle with lifestyle, health, weight and image maintenance. It’s one of my life-ers.
There are some things we will courageously and sometimes cowardly maintain our fight with. These are our life-ers. We will have it on our docket every day. There are times when this will blow us away with frustration, hopelessness and feelings of impotence. Other times we will see it more calmly for what it is. It is. No more or less.
It’s helpful to say these things out loud. That way when we wake up and see the life-er there, or catch a reprieve with distraction, or work like a mad-dog to get friendly with ourselves despite it all and find that that doesn’t take these life-ers away, we will maintain hope. We will see these life-ers, although part of us, don’t define us. We will own them and weave them into our friendship with ourselves – flawed and perfect selves.
What is your life-er?
Self-Care Tip – Knowing what your life-er is, is part of being a friend to yourself.
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hugs. that is hard. let us know how u r along the way.
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Since it is 3am Central 06-22-2011 I wanted to say “YOU ARE THE WINNER” of David Platt’s CD…please contact me at jackiepaulson8@gmail.com with address so that I can mail it out. Thank you for participating in the give a way. ~Jackie
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whoohoo! thank u jackie! what fun!
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What ever the issue I am learning to do the best I can and that brings satisfaction and consolation no matter what the resolution or outcome. The key is to always face it. Unresolved issues are more consternating than the issues themselves.
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that is well said carl. the getting in there and participating w our lives +/-‘s is a big part of getting friendly w ourselves.
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I suppose you could call my weight a “lifer” as it is no longer an “obsession”. I no longer (it was like fifteen years ago!) measure my food or weigh myself. I eat healthy and go by the way my clothes fit…yes, I’m still aware but it doesn’t rule me…if it did, I’d surely weigh less and wear much smaller clothes as I once did.
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i hear the silly part of suzi in that last sentence. funny u.
thank u for sharing this w the mass of others who r silent about their struggles as if there were something shameful about having a life-er. keep on.
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Worry.
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say no more
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Money and kids.
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money and kids kids and money – i hear u!
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Definitely the way I feel about my body and the way I look.
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as a purple pineapple u r not alone! wait! is that right? hugs
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Gah. Constantly striving for people to see me for who I think I am. To color outside the lines in fantastic ways no one has seen & then have them join me!
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gah is a strangely wonderful word. thanks lola for this. u r a diva but that’s just who u r. diva is what it is. diva can b a safe healthy person too, even outside lines, whooping it up. b the best. hugs
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DEPRESSION AND SELF-HATRED. Loneliness. Despair. Addiction.
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these r hard life-ers but not impossible as u testify to the rest of us. u r not alone. keep talking as there r many who need to hear u.
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