Self-care is about improving life, not harm. Even though it includes doing things we don’t enjoy and sometimes hurt, it doesn’t harm us.
That’s a useful meter-stick when we wonder about something in our life. Is this harming us? Including people. Do I feel better about myself when I’m with them? Do they help me become a better person? A better friend to myself? Or, do they turn me toward things that harm me?
When thinking about our days activities, our choice of employment, things we put in our body, put them by this “No-Harm Meter-Stick” and see how they measure.
A deliberate check-point in my life is consistent with a deliberate goal. …”I want to be healthy. Is this improving my health?” “I want to have good self-esteem. Does this improve my self-esteem?” And the journey is consistent with the beginning and the end. If the goals for the moment isn’t consistent with our big picture goals than they might not be the goals we want. Like putting substances in our body that feel good for the moment but harm our life. There are innumerable examples of this but you get the picture.
Questions: What checks you when you need it? What has been useful to remind you in this area or that to be friendly to yourself? Please tell us your story.
Self-Care Tip – Deliberately set up feedback in your life to let you know that you are a friend to yourself.
See blog-Post: “You” Are The Best Gift
- Where Do Emotions and Behaviors Come From? (friendtoyourself.com)
- Positive Emotions and Behaviors are Contagious Too (friendtoyourself.com)
- Choose Back! …As Long As Life Chooses You. (friendtoyourself.com)