English: Мy friend is Wikipedian. Русский: Мой друг – википедист. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Being a friend to yourself, comes just when we need it. When conflicts of interest seduce us into confusion, into late nights of activity; a talk perhaps or a project, a subject of interest, yahoo news perhaps – it is then that being a friend to yourself lovingly redirects our thoughts to the priority of sleep.
During sleep, our friend reminds us that we will heal. We will receive treatment for the stressful day, better than medicine. We will allow our broken neuronal connections to regenerate. Our pantry will restock for clear thinking, kind behaviors to ourselves and emotions with ingredients like cortisol, hormones and neurotransmitters. During sleep, our memories will find there place in the folds between our cells and plant.
When someone wants to talk to us, a conflict grows importantly, or when we mistake good parenting for enabling bad sleeping habits in our children, our friend, Me, says sleep. Clarity and inner congruence swath us then and we know that we can’t give what we don’t have. Tomorrow we can do those things. Now, it’s time to sleep.
To ally yourself with your friend, Me, keep a sleep journal for a week and see how it looks.
Self-Care Tip: Sleep. Be a friend to yourself.
Printable Sleep Diary
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Have you been having any thoughts about wanting to die?
You folks know about these questions I must ask. Some people are offended by them. Many people are grateful. Trisha was guarded.
Did you have a plan in mind on how you would kill yourself?
There was a black pause and then,
I’m not sure I want to tell you that.
I could understand your reluctance Trisha but telling me is a good thing. It helps the ideas lose some of their power. It’s no longer as much of an option when you tell someone than it would be if you kept it a secret, I said.
Another black pause and then,
I wanted to use a chain saw.
When it comes to ways of suicide, this one sounded pretty painful.
Ouch! I said to Trisha.
Her response, well, I didn’t expect it.
I hadn’t thought about that! The pain from that would have been nothing compared to the pain I was going through!
Trisha’s words schooled me. I don’t care how many times we talk about the darkness, the hopeless horror and the suffering of some brain illnesses, somehow, I know that I really don’t want to have full knowledge. When having your neck sawed off by your own hands with a chain saw seems like it would feel better than the full body despair, not many others will understand. Trisha wasn’t processing well, true. But the point isn’t her poverty of suicide options. What is the point here. Well, there is one major point to take home and there is a minor. Starting with the minor point – We can’t presume much about others. Moving on…. Major point – Tell people when having thoughts about wanting to die and what those thoughts are. Why? Because it’s friendly to Me. Telling someone isn’t as much about what they’ll do for Me, although once in a while someone may do something right on our behalf. Rather, telling someone is about what the telling process and knowledge of the telling does for Me. It lets us know that we are not alone. We lose some of the magical quality to the suicide plan. It dilutes our conviction to self-harm as a solution.
Question: What else do you think telling someone about thoughts of suicide does for Me? Please tell us your story.
Self-Care Tip: If you have thoughts of wanting to die, tell others.
Hello. Your missing psychiatrist at hand. Missing you. Thank you for your presence despite the quiet.
Today I heard from a woman that anyone who has God in them could never kill themselves. Aside from all the obvious reasons that was so ignorant, she didn’t know what she was saying about who she believed God to be.
I wondered if you would tell me your opinion of what it says about who God is when we suicide?
If that’s not an important part of being a friend to Me, …
Be a friend to yourself.